Asking Eric: I’m a serious singer, and this woman might make me quit the choir
Dear Eric: I sing as a volunteer in a church choir. Because I can sight-sing, was trained as a musician, and can sing alto, the music director likes it when I come. For me, singing is “work,” not “fun,” but the music director is very nice, and the choir members are very warm and kind people. What I don’t enjoy is that one of the newer members wears very strong cologne, and I am allergic to it. If I forget to take an allergy pill before church, I cough during the entire service and sing about one quarter of the notes. If I remember the allergy pill, I don’t cough but can only sing about half the notes because her cologne still affects my breathing in a bad way. If she (the cologne wearer) was a friend, I could go up to her and say, “Lay off the scent, it’s making me sick.” But she is an acquaintance, and I don’t know her well enough to be so blunt. Also, she is from another country and culture and, as an immigrant, is deserving of our