Harriette Cole: Why can’t I throw away things from my ex-boyfriend?

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been trying to declutter my home for months, focusing on makeup, dresses and other items that no longer serve a purpose, but I keep getting stuck. Every time I start sorting through my belongings, I find myself emotionally attached to certain things, even though they’re no longer necessary. The challenge is especially difficult with items that were given to me by my ex-boyfriend, whom I loved deeply. These things hold sentimental value, and letting them go feels like letting go of a part of my past, which I’m still trying to move on from. I know that decluttering would bring me peace and a sense of accomplishment, but my attachment to the past — particularly these items — is making it hard to move forward. — Decluttering Dilemma DEAR DECLUTTERING DILEMMA: Consider hiring a decluttering specialist to come into your home and work with you to purge those things that no longer serve you. Things often carry emotional weight and can be hard to relinquish, but an outsider — especially a professional who has no attachment to these items — may

Miss Manners: My husband said there’s no rule against pointing. Was I wrong all my life?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was raised to believe it is rude to point, especially in public. When I was married, my spouse had a habit of pointing, whether in a crowded room or on the street. I tried to gently suggest that the action was rude, but he was adamant that no such rule existed. I have looked for support in etiquette books and have come up empty-handed. For my own peace of mind, what is your opinion on this? GENTLE READER: You are, in general, correct. But as you were kind enough to give fair warning that your interest is not disinterested, Miss Manners will add that there are exceptions — such as pointing at the truck speeding towards your former spouse as you warn him to get out of the way. Should you be so inclined. DEAR MISS MANNERS: I just started a new job, and a group text chat was created for us to communicate about our shift availability. However, employees have begun using this chat for small talk. I can’t simply mute it, because I might miss important work information. They’re

Opinion: America needs to retake Econ 101

Exit polling suggests that the dominating issue for voters in the presidential election was the economy. Americans can barely afford groceries, rent and child care. Voters perceived President-elect Donald Trump and Republicans to be more capable of addressing the woes of inflation and globalization, but Democrats have been hawking a similar message. Politicians of all stripes need to move away from selling voters the false promise that they have control over inflation and globalization. Washington does have the power to make positive changes for working families, though. As one party is about to control Congress and the White House, this would be a great moment for lawmakers to brush up on how markets work and what the federal government can do to mitigate stagnant wages and market failures, support working families, and subsidize the construction of new housing. As voters, it is also our job to learn some basic economics, at least enough to understand supply and demand for housing; the effect of tariffs, taxes and subsidies as tools; and the causes of inflation. Our whole country would benefit from a refresher course. Luckily, some

Amid a cash shortage in Gaza, paper money is starting to disintegrate, adding to desperation

DEIR AL BALAH, Gaza Strip —  The tools of his newfound trade arrayed before him, Mohammad Al-Ashaqar, a jeweler for decades, prepares himself for the first of some 200 intricate repairs he performs every day. In his hand he holds neither gemstone nor gold, but a gossamer-thin 20-shekel note held together with tape. He takes an X-acto knife, carefully peels off the old tape, cleans the residue, then applies transparent glue in a way to ensure the bill doesn’t break when it’s folded. “It’s not easy,” Al-Ashqar, 48, says of his work as a money repairman in a shop in Deir al Balah. “But I’ve become quite good at it.” In Deir al Balah, Mohammad al-Ashqar, a jeweler for decades, repairs worn-out Israeli shekels with simple tools like glue and an X-Acto knife, aiming to restore them as usable currency. Palestinian territories use the shekel as their primary currency. (Bilal Shbair / Los Angeles Times) More than a year into Israel’s bombardment of the Gaza Strip, cash is king. But the destruction across the Palestinian territory, which has left few banks standing and made ATMs inaccessible

Demi Moore has a substantial awards past

(Natalia Agatte / For The Times) Demi Moore has drawn the most focused awards attention of her career for her bold performance in “The Substance” as actor and fitness guru Elisabeth Sparkle, who takes an illicit drug in an attempt to retrieve her youth. But looking back, Moore is a veteran of the major awards circuit. 1991 Moore received a lead actress comedy/musical Golden Globe nomination for “Ghost.” 2 Although she was not nominated for an Oscar, Moore starred in two best picture nominees, “Ghost” and “A Few Good Men.” And this was when there were only … 5 … best picture contenders in a year. 1997 Moore received an Emmy producing nomination and Golden Globe producing and acting nominations for the abortion-themed HBO anthology film “If These Walls Could Talk.” 1 of 5 Moore was nominated for a Directors Guild of America Award for the breast cancer-themed 2011 Lifetime short-film anthology “Five,” along with fellow directors Jennifer Aniston, Alicia Keys, Patty Jenkins and Penelope Spheeris. 1/24-6/24: Great five-month run for Moore, who won sympathy as ostracized socialite Ann Woodward in “Feud: Capote vs. the

Best of 2024: Eleven bright spots in classical music during a dark, complicated year

Classical music has been on the front lines in a year marked by division and distraction, protest and intolerance, war and suffering. A pro-Palestinian UCLA student encampment fell under violent attack in April on the same day that, just across the quad, the ambitious Hear Now festival of Los Angeles new music held the last day of its four-concert series. The concluding work turned out to be George Lewis’ “Lonnie and Lonie,” a double concerto that found common musical ground for two uncles with opposing views of the world. Meanwhile, youth orchestras demonstrated that kids from both sides of a divided Venezuela could work together in a children’s symphony; the same with young musicians from Israel and surrounding Arab countries and territories in the West-Eastern Divan Orchestra. The first to bring a sense of community after the U.S. presidential campaigns were the new music ensemble Brightwork on election night and Wild Up in a series of weekend “Democracy Sessions.” Both ended in meditative peace. It’s been a consequential, demanding year. An L.A. Phil year Simon O’Neill sings during the L.A. Phil’s “Das Rheingold” in Disney

L.A. ‘missing women’ cases go viral online, even as the facts get complicated

In the same week last month, two women were reported missing by their families to the Los Angeles Police Department. Their cases garnered attention, quickly making national headlines. Volunteers helped look for the women while their families raised money with crowdfunding online to aid their search efforts. Then, came a shocking update from the police: There was no evidence their loved ones had been abducted. They were instead deemed “voluntarily missing” or not missing at all. In both instances, police said they started their investigation the way a typical missing person’s case would: determining if the person is actually missing or just doesn’t want to be found. First, “Gossip Girl” actress Chanel Maya Banks was reported missing by her family on Nov. 8, Within days, Banks revealed she was safe in Texas, where she verified her identity with local authorities and gave a media interview. She was later removed from California’s registry of missing persons. At the same time, a cousin of Banks was calling news conferences and telling the media that the police claim that Banks was in Texas was “fake news,” insisting she

Storm topples trees in Cone Grove Park

RED BLUFF – Tehama County is working to clean up the damage from the late November winter storm. Facilities Manager Levi Conner shared that the weather hit hard for Tehama County River Park in Corning, Mill Creek Park in Los Molinos, and Cone Grove Park in Dairyville. All three flooded. River Park and Mill Creek Park returned to normal pretty quickly. However, a minor cleanup was still needed in those parks, which happened Tuesday at Mill Creek Park. Cone Grove Park was hit the hardest, flooding twice within a 12-hour period. The park lost three full-size Valley oak trees. “We have had probably six inches of mud in all of our bathrooms, and so we got hit pretty hard there,” Conner said. “The playground is pretty washed out.” County staff are cleaning that up. With the help of the probation crew, they hope to get a good start on Thursday and Friday. Conner asked for patience while that work was being done. Down branches at Cone Grove Park. Picture taken Nov. 26. (George Johnston/Daily News) “Like I said, the other two, they are in pretty

Garden Club wreaths for scholarships | Red Bluff Garden Club

The Red Bluff Garden Club’s “elves” are gearing up for their annual Scholarship Christmas Boutique and Green Sale, which will be held December 11-14. The RBGC began providing scholarships to high school seniors in 1972.  Since then, 88 scholarships have been awarded.  And just since 2006, the scholarship amount is over $63,000!   All proceeds from this seasonal project are designated to fund up to three or more scholarships with a maximum of $1500 each to Tehama County high school seniors who are entering college and pursuing a career in plant/horticulture fields. The number and amount of the yearly scholarships varies depending on what is earned from our green sale and donations, as well on the number of applications received.  Interested high school seniors are encouraged to check with their guidance counselors for applications in early January.  Students must desire to pursue a field of study pertaining to plants, horticulture, environmental studies, floral design, agriculture, or other related studies. In 2024, Red Bluff awarded scholarships to seven high school seniors graduating from Corning, Los Molinos, and Red Bluff High Schools, totaling $9,000, due to the

Horoscopes Dec. 5, 2024: Margaret Cho, station yourself among the movers and shakers who get things done

CELEBRITIES BORN ON THIS DAY: Frankie Muniz, 39; Amy Acker, 48; Margaret Cho, 56; John Rzeznik, 59. Happy Birthday: Keep moving, act and seize opportunities. It’s your life, and capitalizing on the choices you encounter will determine how good or bad things turn out for you this year. A passionate approach will encourage others to weigh in, giving you a boost that will catapult you to your chosen destination. Bypass the grifters, users and abusers, and station yourself among the movers and shakers who get things done. Your numbers are 4, 9, 17, 26, 35, 43, 48. ARIES (March 21-April 19): Interact with someone who offers an unusual perspective regarding something of interest, and you’ll discover the best way to participate. The knowledge you receive and the opportunity to use your skills accordingly will put you in a prime position. Align yourself with like-minded associates and prosper. 4 stars TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Know what you want and set a course for success. Trust your instincts and micromanage the input you receive from outsiders. Changing how you present yourself and what you have to offer

Seven Spartans tabbed as All-EAL

Northern Section announced the 2024 all-league teams on Tuesday afternoon and there were 15 Tehama County players on the three league teams. Seven Red Bluff Spartans were named to the all-Eastern Athletic League team, four Corning High Cardinals were named to the Butte View League team, and four players from Los Molinos made the Mid Valley League team. Eastern Athletic League Quarterback Kayden Leaf led the Spartans contingent on the team as he topped more than 1.000 yards in both passing and rushing this season to lead the team to the Northern Section championship, where it lost to Pleasant Valley 48-21. His favorite target, Landon Kunau, was also named to the all-league team. He led the Spartans in receiving, but he missed most of Saturday night’s game with an injury. His backfield mate, Zach Shaver, was also named on the team. Shaver also topped 1,000 yards and had a 30-yard touchdown run in the loss to the Vikings. Perhaps the biggest key to the Spartans’ success on offense this year was their offensive line, which had three players named to the All-League team, including sophomore

An Ode to my Hero | Shooting the Breeze

In honor of Pearl Harbor, I’d like to give this space to my grandfather. He served on the USS Oklahoma until it capsized on Dec. 7, 1941. He went on to fight in the Battle of Guadalcanal aboard the USS San Francisco. He quit Cal and returned home to run the family newspaper, The Manteca Bulletin. Here is an excerpt from his Pulitzer Prize-nominated column, published on Dec. 28, 1950. Batting the Breeze By George Murphy, Jr.   We would like to apologize to all servicemen. It seems we’ve developed a case of civilianitis. And that means a lot of crying about life on the home front, in case you didn’t know what civilianitis means. We were lying in bed the other night when our conscience opened fire. It made a little speech like this: You’re worried, aren’t you, Murph? You’ve got big problems. Things look tough next year. No new cars, maybe? So perhaps there’s no automobile advertising. And that’s a good chunk of your revenue, isn’t it? And you’ve got big payments at the bank to meet. But how about the boys in

House task force to hold final hearing on Trump assassination attempts

House panel releases report on Trump shooting Breaking down the House panel report on Trump rally shooting 04:04 Washington — Secret Service Acting Director Ronald Rowe is set to testify Thursday before the bipartisan House task force investigating the assassination attempts against President-elect Donald Trump as the panel prepares to wrap its investigation into the incidents that sent shockwaves through the country in the lead up to the presidential election.  The panel, which the House voted to establish earlier this year, is tasked with looking into the security failures during the July 13 assassination attempt against Trump in Butler, Pennsylvania, and the foiled attempt in West Palm Beach, Florida, on Sept. 15. The lawmakers will also make recommendations to prevent future attacks. Thursday’s hearing will begin at 9:30 a.m. on Capitol Hill. The Secret Service came under intense scrutiny in the wake of the initial attack, and its director at the time, Kimberly Cheatle, resigned in July after a bruising day of testimony before the House Oversight and Accountability Committee. Rowe’s testimony on Thursday marks his first public appearance before the task force, which heard

French prime minister resigning after parliament’s no-confidence vote

Updated on: December 5, 2024 / 5:44 AM EST / AFP French lawmakers oust prime minister French lawmakers oust prime minister in no-confidence vote 01:31 Paris — French Prime Minister Michel Barnier on Thursday was meeting Emmanuel Macron to submit his resignation after losing a vote of no confidence in parliament, with the president urgently seeking ways to halt growing political and financial chaos. Poised to be contemporary France’s shortest-serving premier, Barnier arrived at the Elysee Palace just after 10 a.m. local time (4 a.m. Eastern) for the resignation formality, with the outgoing premier and government constitutionally obliged to step down after the defeat in parliament. A majority of lawmakers supported the no-confidence vote Wednesday that was proposed by the hard-left and backed by the far-right, headed by Marine Le Pen. Barnier’s record-quick ejection comes after snap parliamentary elections this summer that resulted in a hung parliament , with no political force able to form an overall majority and the far-right holding the key to the government’s survival. French Prime Minister Michel Barnier speaks during a no-confidence debate at the National Assembly in Paris, France, Dec.

El Cajon drivers face continued traffic snags two months after fuel truck spill

EL CAJON, Calif. (FOX 5/KUSI) —  Residents in El Cajon are still dealing with the aftermath of a gasoline spill two months after the incident. The intersection at Fletcher Parkway and Navajo Road has been out of commission since a tanker truck rolled over, spilling nearly 8,600 gallons of gasoline. While crews have been working to clean up the mess for the past eight weeks, getting around the area has been the biggest challenge for people. “Why is it taking them so long? What’s going on down there because we’ve been told nothing,” said Jason Neely, owner of Jason’s Water Store. Neely’s business is not far from where a gasoline spill disrupted the day-to-day in the area. A fence surrounds a huge trench where crews are working to remove contaminated dirt right where a truck tipped over, spilling gasoline on Oct. 9. Several large metal containers are packed with the tainted dirt, but it’s not all of it.  Robert Wise with the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency says he expects cleanup to be done by Friday. “We were kind of shocked at how long it’s taking.

Police piece together UnitedHealthcare CEO shooting suspect’s escape route

NEW YORK — Police searching for the suspected killer of UnitedHealthcare CEO Brian Thompson are investigating whether the alleged shooter prepositioned an e-bike close to the scene of the incident as a means of escape, police sources told ABC News. A masked gunman carried out a “brazen, targeted attack” that was “premeditated,” NYPD Commissioner Jessica Tisch said at a Wednesday news conference. The motive remains unknown, police said. The NYPD has isolated shots of the suspect from a nearby Starbucks before the shooting. Investigators believe the shooter is proficient in firearms but because of what he carried on him and his approach during the killing, they do not believe he was a hitman. Thompson, 50, was in New York City for the UnitedHealthcare investors conference, which was scheduled to start at 8 a.m. His schedule was widely known, police sources said. He was shot several times at close range outside the Hilton Hotel — where the conference was being held — at around 6:40 a.m. by the intersection of West 54th Street and Sixth Avenue. File photo of Chief Executive Officer of UnitedHealthcare Brian Thompson.

UnitedHealthcare CEO Brian Thompson fatally shot in NYC; writing discovered on shell casing

NEW YORK — GET LATEST HERE: Police piece together UnitedHealthcare CEO shooting suspect’s escape route The words “deny,” “defend” and “depose” were discovered by detectives on the shell casings found at the scene where Brian Thompson, the CEO of major insurance group UnitedHealthcare, was gunned down, police sources told ABC News late Wednesday evening. Thompson was shot to death at point-blank range in Midtown Manhattan on Wednesday morning before he was set to attend an investor conference, according to police. The masked gunman, who remains on the loose, carried out a “brazen, targeted attack” that was “premeditated,” NYPD Commissioner Jessica Tisch said at a news conference. But the motive remains unknown, police said. NYPD detectives are working to determine whether the words were meant as a message from the shooter and a hint at his motive. The shooter appeared to be lying in wait at the hotel where he shot Thompson around 6:40 a.m., police said. Video captured the moment the gunman walked up behind the CEO, pointed his gun at him and fired. A witness fled as Thompson stumbled and fell to the ground.

Search underway for semi-truck after hit-and-run crash in Fresno County, CHP says

Thursday, December 5, 2024 7:31AM Authorities are searching for a semi-truck involved in a hit-and-run crash that sent two brothers to the hospital in Fresno County on Wednesday night. FRESNO COUNTY, Calif. (KFSN) — Authorities are searching for a semi-truck involved in a hit-and-run crash that sent two brothers to the hospital in Fresno County on Wednesday night. The crash happened around 8:30 pm near North and Temperance. The California Highway Patrol says a semi-truck ran a stop sign before a pick-up truck hit the side of the trailer. The driver of the semi did not stop after the crash. Investigators say a 20-year old man and his younger teenage brother were taken to the hospital with minor to moderate injuries. Authorities are now searching for a red big rig with a white trailer. They believe it has damage on the right side of the trailer. Stay with Action News for the latest updates on this developing story. Copyright © 2024 KFSN-TV. All Rights Reserved. Top Stories

Man and teen arrested for deadly shooting in Cutler, deputies say

Thursday, December 5, 2024 7:29AM Two suspects have been arrested for a shooting that left a man dead in Tulare County over the weekend. TULARE COUNTY, Calif. (KFSN) — Two suspects have been arrested for a shooting that left a man dead in Tulare County over the weekend. The shooting happened just before 5:30 pm Sunday at Ledbetter Park near Avenue 408 and Road 128 in Cutler. The Tulare County Sheriff’s Office says Christopher Perez was with a 14-year-old boy at the park when he was shot and killed. On Wednesday, officials announced that 19-year-old Christopher Talingo and a 15-year-old boy have been identified as suspects in the shooting. Investigators say they arrested the 15-year-old after a short chase at his home. Talingo and the teen have both been booked into the Tulare County jail for homicide, attempted homicide, and conspiracy. Copyright © 2024 KFSN-TV. All Rights Reserved. Top Stories

American man likely killed by kidnappers in Philippines, police say

December 5, 2024 / 4:51 AM EST / CBS/AP Manila, Philippines — Philippine police officials said Thursday they were checking reports that a kidnapped American died after being shot twice while resisting his Oct. 17 abduction by gunmen in the country’s south. Elliot Eastman , 26, from Vermont, was shot twice with an M16 rifle while trying to fight off his four kidnappers, who posed as police officers, in the coastal town of Sibuco in Zamboanga del Norte province, police said. The kidnappers dragged him to a motorboat and sped off, according to earlier police reports. A massive search for Eastman and his abductors led to the arrest of a number of suspects, but he has not been found. Three suspects were killed in a gunbattle with police in the south last month. A man points to a suspected bloodstain in the sand in Sibuco, Zamboanga del Norte province, Philippines, Oct. 18, 2024, where abducted American YouTuber Elliot Eastman was shot by gunmen. STR/AFP/Getty Regional police spokesperson Lt. Col. Ramoncelio Sawan said investigators received information from a relative of one of the suspects that Eastman died

USC gives No. 12 Oregon a scare before collapsing late in Big Ten debut

Little about the first month of his first season at USC had gone as Eric Musselman hoped. His USC offense struggled to score. His defense struggled to get stops. And on the glass, only a few of the 355 teams in Division I college basketball had been worse than the Trojans, who struggled to dispatch the likes of Grambling and Texas Arlington. The shortcomings of a rapidly constructed roster had become evident to USC’s coach during that eight-game stretch. But after stumbling its way through the first month of the Muss era, here was a chance, in its Big Ten debut, for USC to stem the tide of those early-season struggles. The Trojans seemed well on their way to seizing that opportunity Wednesday against Oregon, which sat atop the conference after a spotless 8-0 start. Then, in the final minutes, everything unraveled for USC in a 68-60 loss to the No. 12 Ducks. A defense that, for most of the game, appeared transformed crumbled during the final 10 minutes, as Oregon got to the line again and again — 16 times in that stretch. Oregon