Asking Eric: We thought it was OK to wear shorts to the wedding. Things got worse from there.
Dear Eric: Our family attended the wedding of two longtime friends. We were part of a close-knit friend group that saw each other through some difficult times over the years and spent vacations together. Months ago, a mutual friend posted their invitation to our small group chat, assuming that we had all received one. Except that we hadn’t. This prompted one of the brides to fire off private messages with convoluted explanations for the “delay” in our invitations. As the day approached, we began receiving logistical messages for the wedding. One of them was peculiar in that the list of recipients was not visible. “Shorts are welcome,” it read, because it was going to be very hot. Our family wore shorts. As we arrived, it became very obvious that no one else had gotten that memo. Not a single pair of shorts or informal attire in sight. The brides greeted us politely but coldly. As the wedding evening wore on, the slights kept getting more obvious. While a big group was dancing, me included, one bride loudly told me to stop dancing because that song